Chapter 6-- Don't anyhow say....

Below are some of the phrases or more appropiately words which I feel that we should not just say it without giving it more thoughts.

1.) "understand"
Do not anyhow console other people by using this word especially when you yourself have not encounter such situations before. These could be in circumstances when someone's loved ones or pets have died or simply when someone have met with an unpleasant situation. It is because although you can always try to understand their feelings, you will still NEVER be totally able to understand it. Even if you have encountered similar situations, remember that the situations are however NEVER identical becuase different people have different perceptions to things that may seem very similar. For instance, even if you have lost a loved one before and someone you know is currently grieving about the loss of their loved ones, you would still be unable to totally understand their feeling because the degree of attachment could very well be different no matter how slight thay are.

2.) "never"
Very simple to understand why-because "never" may jolly well never occur. There is also a saying that that is no forever friend or enermy in this world implying that in this ever changing world where anything could happen, nothing could be guaranteered forever. Before the september 11th incident, who would have thought that the issue of terrorism would resonance so strongly 6 years down the road?

3.) "regret"
What the point of dwelling on something that you know will not change? Regret is a very negative word that often creep up on people rendering them depressing and helpless. However every regret is also at the same time every lesson learned so do fully make use of whatever regrets you have to improve upon yourself.

4.) "if"
Same as regret, it is simply to late to want to change things now. Just accept whatever the results are and move on with your life. Remember that life is unpredictable and there would be be too many "if" in life for us to ponder over so we might as well save those unnecssary time and spend those time on something more meaningful and productive. Remember also that you aren't no god so stop blaming yourself for all the bad choices you have made in your life time.